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Potential | Authority
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Trumatize: 1. I wasn't thinking about her and then I started thinking about her. 2. Walking down the street rapping. 3. I saw her hair, she was beautiful. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Sin: 1. When I was little I used to like the police, but as I got older, I didn't. 2. When they put me in cuffs wrongfully. 3. It showed me that they do unfair things. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Anonymous: 1. What I wanted to eat. 2. A week ago I changed from wanting greens to pizza. 3. When I couldn't get the greens, I got the pizza, cause it was right there. I could look at it. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Junior: 1.2.3. Believe in Santa? No! Because I got smart. Didn't think he could give out toys. [Too many children, too expensive, ain't nobody that kind to give out presents to all the little kids in the world. Common sense told me its not real.]
Anonymous: 1.Whether or not I wanted something. 2. I decided I didn't want it. 3. I didn't have the money.
Andrius Kulikauskas: I got an example from a person, but forgot to ask for permission, so I relate it here second hand: 1. He was pulled away from capitalism, towards Marxism. 2. This occurred when he was taking college classes, philosophy class. 3. They showed him how capitalism works, made him think of different ways.
Iesha Robinson: 1. Whether I like cultural studies. 2. The teachers changed. 3. The new teacher was interested in cultural studies.
Anonymous: 1. How I feel about my job at Circuit City. 2. I was unhappy with it, I was looking for another job, but I had a good week, made a lot of commission, so then I felt better. 3. All the money I made, the way I handled myself with my customers, my rapport with them, I had high self-esteem because every customer I saw was buying. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to use coarse language. 2. When I was in fourth grade the kids around me cursed as part of their everyday language. At that time I did not curse because my parents had discouraged using such words and I had not found any reason to. 3. But I thought that I should learn how to use these words so as to communicate in the language of everyday life.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to eat tortilla chips. 2. The last time I went into a taqueria was for a little snack I told myself I would have when I got to Pilsen. When I found one, I recalled that they often serve tortilla chips for free, which I like. But I feel the tortilla chips are an easy way to gain weight. I have a personal tradition of eating everything on my plate, that it is wrong to leave food uneaten. Last time I went out with Steve, my principle lead to eating too much and I realized I have to make that principle less important. At a certain point I told myself I shouldn't eat any more tortilla chips. But then a moment later I would see that they were there on the table and I would eat some more. This went on several times until there were only a couple left. I told myself I need to make that a symbol that I would not eat them all, and I didn't. 3. A. My principles should not have me end up eating too much. B. I was looking forward to eating. C. I had eaten enough. D. They were there on the table. E. I had to take a stand that I could see.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to kill a cat. 2. I was talking with some youths, and then I think two of them tied a leash around the neck of a stray cat. The cat ran away, then they caught the cat and I think they brought this big dog up to it, and the dog ended up mauling the cat, crushing it in its mouth. A small crowd gathered, engrossed. I spoke up that I was going to separate the animals, and one of the two youths then pulled his dog away. The cat just lay there, with teeth marks in it, then started breathing. I asked for a shovel so that I could kill the cat. 3. The crowd thought the cat would live, saying a cat has nine lives. The cat started breathing more strongly, but still wasn't moving. I could not be sure that the cat could not recover and walk away, although I highly doubted it. But I had work to do, and the crowd would outstay me. The turning point was that I did not want to kill it if there was somebody who felt that it could live. So I defered to their knowledge and responsibility, and said good night. See them around.
Samuel Anthony Wilson: 1. About what job as I was going to have. 2.3. I changed it because not enough money.
Donielle: 1. Money 2. Changing jobs. 3. I wanted to make more.
Craig Hemphill: 1.Whether I want to play football or basketball. 2. About a year ago I decided that I was not as good in basketball as I am in football. 3. I play basketball, I found out I am good at football. I am a good quarterback and I am following my brother's footsteps. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Anonymous: 1.2.3. Jail. Go to jail. Not going for life.
Joe Damal: 1. Whether to stay at SCC or to leave. 2.3. I knew what things would have been like, the atmosphere wasn't necessarily going to be as challenging.
James Washington: 1. Spending sweetest day with my girl. 2. But she broke my heart, so I had to let her go. 3. She wasn't the right one.
Anonymous: 1.2.3. Drugs. I did not want to be a crackhead.
Willie: 1. I wanted to go to school, then I wanted to drop out, then I wanted to go to school. 2. After I went back to school I stayed there for two weeks. I started to get into arguments with teachers and youth. 3. Stress with teachers and youth. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Anonymous: 1.2.3. Drugs. My welfare.
Anonymous: 1.2.3. I changed my mind about sex. A boy tried to have sex with me. But I changed my mind when I thought about the consequences. I changed my mind because I didn't want to get pregnant or get into trouble by my parents.
Anonymous: 1.2.3. About having sex. I was going to have sex. But I didn't want to get pregnant.
Joe Damal: 1. I wanted to give up on my co-workers. 2. I decided to give them another chance. 3. I did this because I knew they are innovative people who could help a great deal with the investigation.
Willie: 1. I wanted to go to school, then I wanted to drop out, then I wanted to go to school. 2. After two and a half weeks out I wanted to go back. 3. There ain't nothing out for me to do during school hours. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to be friends with girls, part II. 2. I took a stand not to have anything to do with girls, but felt the tremendous weight of my stand before God. I thought I knew myself well, but realized that I was being very rash to say never. What about falling in love and having a family? I asked God to change that to ten years. 3. I wavered that I might not know myself well enough to make irrevocable decisions.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to stimulate myself sexually. 2. Almost every day the question arises, especially before I go to sleep. My will battles my desires, and my mind tends to be very nimble on behalf of my desires, locating weaknesses and looking for new arguments. My will has to be very well centered. 3. Arguments encouraging sexual stimulation include: It is a very pleasant and natural high. It is part of the process of programming my mind and body sexually. It is biologically natural and socially normal. It is a vehicle for modeling, exploring, and expressing my feelings. Arguments discouraging sexual stimulation include: When I wake up my body is chemically depressed, and my mind feels shattered, which is unpleasant. My spirit and confidence are diminished. I avoid challenges that I had meant to take up. Counterarguments encouraging sexual stimulation: If only my thoughts arouse me, then it is not a problem. If my thoughts lead me to stimulate myself, then it is not a problem. If I halt myself, then it is not a problem. I am not able to avoid these thoughts. I am not able to fall asleep. I might as well indulge myself. Counterarguments discouraging sexual stimulation: My mind is turned against me. Regardless of whether I am successful, it is better to strengthen my will and fight this behavior then to let my will weaken. I am wrong to heighten my sexual urge. I need to be chaste in my thoughts. Chastity will not take away my sexuality. Chastity is a healthy foundation for sexuality. I do not want to need sex. I am very grateful to God that I can be chaste and feel no sexual need.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether I am attracted to a young woman. 2. I know a young woman who sometimes I feel attracted to. Sometimes I find her physically attractive, she likes to take up new challenges, and she is very interested in matters of the faith, life, and the mind. She told me that she likes to get drunk, and I thought her drinking conflicted with her other interests, and I told her this. She explained honestly that getting drunk was the path that suited her, the path she had chosen. I realized that I did not want to be near her soul. 3. She was extremely honest, and so I got to see that she truly was this person in whom I did not want to participate.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to drink socially. 2. In high school, I mostly did not drink, but once in a while at a party I drank a bit. I thought that it was normal to drink in moderation. Listening to people I thought that they mostly drink to get enough of a buzz to be social. But I didn't want to be relying on a social crutch. I wanted my social skills to develop fully. 3. I thought drinking would be a substitute for my own social efforts and would stunt my character.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to drink or use drugs at all. 2. When I was little, maybe in fifth grade, I thought that alcohol was not for children, but that adults could drink in moderation. Then our teacher told us about drugs and how alcohol killed our brain cells. I thought my brain was an incredible treasure from God and that I had no right to do the least damage to it. So I should not drink at all. 3. I could not ignore my responsibilities.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1.Whether or not to expand my mind with drugs or alcohol. 2. I think about sixth grade, I was attracted to the idea that drugs are good if they can expand your mind. But I liked my mind so much I felt a bit threatened that we all could just improve our minds with drugs. I figured that God gave us the same mind, as far as what really mattered, and it was just about what we were going to do with it. Whereas obviously not everybody had access to drugs. So expanding one's mind was irrelevant. 3. I wanted to stand on a solid foundation.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1.Whether or not to report a youth to the authorities. 2. Some youths pointed out to me that this one young kid, about 14 years old, was the biggest drug dealer on the block. I had trouble believing, but then figured they weren't kidding, because when they talked to him he did seem incoherent. I told the youths that I would not call the authorities, but that we would all work together to get that kid to change. They were doubtful, but up for the challenge. 3. I thought that the real solution to the problem was that the block come together to help the kid. Whereas I doubted that the authorities would accomplish anything constructive. Later, I realized that the Youth Outreach Program, for whom I was working, would want me to let them know. But I figured that would not help the kid, and they could fire me if they wanted to. I looked to God, and understood him to point out that my caring was genuine. Also, as far as explaining my inaction, everything that I knew about the kid was hearsay, so I was not accountable. Then I realized that I was working for them, and their rules were binding, especially about reporting crises, which this kid might fall under. Also, it was probably enough for me to be suspicious, which I was. I imagined that the kid's family, if they ever got in trouble, might be cynical enough to sue the Chicago Public Schools, claiming that I was negligent by not referring the kid immediately. That was the turning point - I did not want to get the Youth Outreach Program in trouble, I cared for them and wanted them to do well. Also, I knew the person whom I was to make the call to, and he seemed like a good guy, and I should trust him to make his decision. Also, we could work on both sides of the house: the authorities with the family, and the block with the kid. So I looked to God and understood that to make the call would be the harder thing to do, and not very hard at that. Also, I had no reason to believe we would actually have the energy to help the kid, and it would be good if somebody did something. Also, I would tell the kids that I changed my mind. That would be good for all of our growth.
Dwayne: 1.2. Thinking of ditching school this morning. 3. Changed my mind because I did not want to get in trouble or miss out on my education. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Armando Morales: 1. Two weeks ago my friend asked me what my two favorite sports were. I told him basketball and baseball. He said he liked football and basketball. 2. I told him I changed my mind. I like basketball and football. 3. I changed my mind because I wanted to be like my friend.
Paul: 1.Fighting. 2. Last week these boys kept on messing with me. [What were you thinking of doing?] Messing with them back. 3. I would've got in trouble from my grandmother. [Written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Chris Burton: 1. I was thinking of fighting. 2. During the football game. 3. Alex said that I couldn't be on the football team if I start a fight.
Anonymous: 1.Stealing a car. 2. I was thinking about it. 3. I get my ass whipped by Dad and Mom. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Eric: 1.2.3. One time in school my teacher made me mad and I wanted to talk back but I didn't. That's why I changed my mind because I wanted to talk back to the teacher but in my mind I said no because I might get suspended.
Peace: 1.Being enemy with somebody because they're in a certain gang. Now I don't care, as long as you're cool. 2. When I got out of jail. 3. Talked to older brothers who were telling me that the way I'm thinking I'll be back for some serious time. Do something before I be back there with them. "We see you back in here, you got one coming. You too smart for that!" I changed my mind. None of the things I did I was raised to it. I choose all of the things I did. I brought myself into it, I was always the leader, I was never a follower. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Anonymous: 1. When my friend do bad things I get scared and changed my mind. 2. They were talking about jumping on people. 3. I got scared, I did not want anybody to come to my house, or be punished by my mom. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Anonymous: 1.I will not buy weed. 2. A man ask me, "Do you like weed?" "No." But was thinking about it. 3. But my mom said not to do drugs. Some people I know are smoking that stuff and they be acting crazy.
Anonymous: 1.2.3. I was stealing from the store and then I changed my mind and did not do it. It was not worth it to steal from the store [because I did not want to risk getting punished].
Trinel Clark: 1. One day I was going to beat this kid up but I thought about the consequences and I didn't do it. 2. I thought about it when I was about to hit him. 3. I knew that I couldn't get in trouble by my mother. I had got in so much trouble before that I knew I couldn't mess up with her anymore.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to use coarse language, part II. 2. I had a crush on Lacie, and when she heard me curse, she told me not to. I told her why I did, and also pointed out that she did and the other kids did. She told me that it wasn't like me to curse. 3. I took her words to heart because I loved her and thought she knew what was right for me.
Anonymous: 1.Sports 2. When I knew I was about to get hit by somebody bigger than me. 3. I didn't want to get hurt.
Anonymous: 1. Taking one bus as opposed to another bus to get home from the park. 2. I used to go home one way, but then I started taking another way. 3. It was faster.
Alex Garcia: 1.2.3. I was in school and I wanted to join the football and I changed my mind because I got lazy. I didn't want to stay in school too late.
Joe Damal: 1. I was undecided on how to build a chase. Should I extend it all the way to the door or should I stop somewhere between the door and closet? 2.3. I decided to stop somewhere between the door and closet because otherwise the threshhold of the door would be nearly two feet wide and wider on one side than another.
Anonymous: 1. Maybe I go outside and have fun or stay inside and watch T.V. 2. The moment when it changed was in the afternoon around 12:30pm [decided to stay inside]. 3. The reason why I changed is because of tiredness.
Dominick McCarthy: 1. Whether I shave my head or let my hair grow out. 2. Today, opted for a trim instead of shaving my head. 3. Winter's coming so I let it grow out for the warmth.
Dominick McCarthy: 1. Should I take the bus, or should I drive into the Loop? 2. Going to CPS in the Loop. 3. Didn't know how long the processing at CPS would take, parking downtown is expensive.
Dominick McCarthy: 1. An extensive workout vs. a lightweight workout. 2. Working out in my basement. 3. Space and time are limited so I chose a lightweight workout.
Aretha: 1.About peers and friends. 2. I changed my mind on a friend. 3. I changed my mind because of betrayal. [I don't hang around with backstabbers. This person is not the kind I should be hanging around with.]
Anonymous: 1. I don't want to be nice to anybody anymore. Starting in the new millenium I'm going to be stingy and evil and a soldier. 2. Almost a week, two weeks ago. 3. It's going to be a new millenium and that's the way I want to start it off, with my own opinion. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Anonymous: 1.2.3. Everything. Stealing. Going to jail. What's wrong.
Dejuan: 1.2. I changed my mind about being a class clown and I turned and made a big change in my life. 3. Because I realized I was doing wrong.
Anonymous: 1.Stealing. 2. When I was five or six. 3. Stealing is wrong. It's a sin to steal. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Latrice Bolling: 1.I was going to go with my friend ex-boyfriend. 2.When my friend started to tell me she still liked him it made me feel bad. 3.I wouldn't want anyone to do that to me.
Regino Hernandez: 1.2.3. Once I had two girlfriends and I had to make a decision on who I wanted to be with because they found out about each other. I felt guilty about having two girlfriends.
Daniel: 1. I learned to trust more. 2. [I decided to trust another youth] 3. I saw that I was acting foolish about it.
Isaac Sanchez: 1. I was going to kick this dog because it was chasing me. But then I thought why kick the dog when all it was doing but playing around and why hurt the dog? 2. It changed when I was getting ready to hit the dog and then it started liking me. 3. I thought, that is cruelty to animals, and I didn't want to hit it because I didn't want to hurt it.
Tong Zhu: 1.2.3. When I came to the United States, I thought
a lot of different way to make a schedule to wish come true that means
I can stay US and go to university to got phD.. At first we thought
I can study the Bible school help me change the visa. We were praying
several days. We all felt not good in the heart of each person.
Because I have not a idea to become a
pastor. We all thought that was to tempt the Lord. We should
believe the Lord because He know what is good to us. On the other
hand my brother looked for a attorney. We hoped he would help me
change the visa from B-2 to F-1. He looked for a ESL. He asked us
to spend money, but I could not go to the school. I thought that
was illegal. We had a same feeling that it
was incorrect in a head of the God. We gave up this way.
My brother knew a professor who is director of the Department of Public
Health. At first, he said I could go to the Department before I took
the TOEFL test. When I prepare the application, recommendation, and
transcription, he said I should take TOEFL and GRE test. I felt very
disappointed, because my
English was not good enough to take the test. The Lord gave me
another opportunity, Prof. Choi who works at UCSD cancer center invited
me to work at his laboratory for two years.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to be friends with girls. 2. In third grade, I was becoming interested in being friends with girls to know more about them. There was a girl with new boots. She chased after us. She kicked me with her new boots. I thought she did that because she liked me, and I thought that was a very sick way to behave. So I took a stand in my mind not to have anything to do with girls. 3. I took my stand because I thought the way girls related to boys was a sick game that I would not support with my participation.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1.Whether or not to drink for the taste. 2. In high school, I had no firm evidence that there was any harm to drinking small amounts of alcohol. I liked to try different things and when somebody offered, I would occassionally try their drinks. But I thought there was something unnecessary about the alcohol, as far as taste was concerned, and that the huge variety of drinks was just a big excuse to drink. So I decided not to try drinks any more. 3. I did not want to give support to a game that I did not believe in.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to do more work on my project to develop an import/export standard. 2. At the end of the IrDA meeting I decided not to do any work for a while and drive out of there as far as I could. Being in the Bay Area was a rare opportunity to meet people in the industry. 3. Things had gone very well. I had accomplished a lot and was pleased with how things were headed. I should not get more absorbed into the project, but should instead step outside of it to pray and reflect on what is important in life. I wanted to be focused on the right things, the things that I could raise before God.
Anonymous: 1.2.3. When I wake up in the morning, I think man, I'm tired, I want to stay in bed, but you can't stay in bed cause you got bills to pay. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Prince Crockrom: 1.2.3. I stayed up all night, was tired and sleeping. Wasn't gonna come but I really wanted to come. So I know it would be good for me. So here I am!
Damand Washington: 1.Planned to go to Youth Summit 99. 2. I was not going to go. 3. Changed my mind and went because I already agreed to going.
Junior: 1.2. I thought about staying at home and sleeping in cause I had to go work the next day. That's why I wanted to be in early. Instead I went to party. My friends kept telling me "Come on, let's do this, come on, let's go." At first, I was "No, no", but they kept telling me so I said "All right". 3. Cause it sounded like fun, and they were telling me to go. I wanted to go, but the only thing holding me back was that I had to work the next day, early in the morning, and I wanted to be fresh. I didn't want to be tired. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to cross a log. 2. Normally I stay away from doing anything the least bit dangerous. I do not trust my coordination. When I go hiking with my friend John in the Sierras, I do things that I would never do by myself, like crossing a log over a raging river. We wanted to get across to climb a mountain, and he had no problem crossing, and I felt that I should cross if I was able. 3. I should do my utmost not to hinder the group activity.
Joe Damal: 1. Should I buy the couch that I see in the warehouse, and have it immediately, or should I order the couch and wait 4 to 6 weeks for delivery? 2.3. I decided to wait because although the warehouse couch was less expensive, it was not exactly what I wanted (nice color but the size was a bit too small).
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Whether or not to hold a beer can at parties in high school. 2. I went to a couple of parties in high school, and my friends said I did not have to drink a lot, just hold a beer can in my hand. They said it was not to drink, but to be social, which sounded mature. However, I thought to do so would be to lie. If I was not going to drink, then I would be upfront about it. 3. I wanted to be true to myself.
Charles: 1. Appearance. 2. Changed my hair from a tapered Afro to low fade. 3. I decided it was time for a change.
Meonkatoleray Unique: 1. Wanting to be a teacher. 2. Half a year ago I decided to be a doctor or lawyer or beautician instead of a teacher. 3. I don't know why I changed. [written down by Andrius Kulikauskas]
Joe Damal: 1. Getting a regular job or work with Minciu Sodas. 2. Couple of months ago. 3. It could be more of an open atmosphere for organizing.
Joe Damal: 1. I decided to cook more. 2. About a year ago. 3. I knew I was a good cook. It would be kind of fun to be a better cook.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Growing a beard. 2. I came home from Germany unshaven and I realized that I lived outside of the city and here was my chance to grow a beard. 3. I had the chance, I was curious what I would look like, and why not do something different?
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. Learning Chinese. 2. I had wanted to try my ideas out in a non-Indoeuropean culture. My old roommate Shuhong was from China and I had an opportunity to stay with his family there. 3. Why not get to know Chinese? There was no particular reason, except that it was a whole civilization, not just a country. I would take my time.
Andrius Kulikauskas: 1. What personality I should have. 2. On entering high school, college, and graduate school, I felt that I could and should decide what kind of person I wanted to be, for example, funny or not. 3. I had the opportunity to start from scratch.